But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit. Jeremiah 17:7-8 (NIV)
Looking at the attributes of love in 1 Corinthians 13 we come to: ‘love … always trusts’.
The first question we must ask is: in Christian marriage what are we to put our trust in? Many people start married life with a belief that nothing could possibly go wrong in their marriage and if it does they will have each other to rely upon. Of course they do have each other, but even this base can be shaken when something tragic or dramatic happens. The verses quoted above from Jeremiah 17 use imagery like ‘… when heat comes …’ and ‘… year of drought …’ to characterise those times when things go wrong and are beyond our control. I can guarantee that in any marriage there will be such times, so it is best to be prepared for them. The issue isn’t that these difficult times arise (because they will), what is critical is how you will deal with them when they do happen. Psalm 112 puts it well:
They will have no fear of bad news; their hearts are steadfast, trusting in the Lord. Their hearts are secure, they will have no fear … Psalm 112:7-8 (NIV).
Look again at the verses from Jeremiah 17; we are told to be ‘… like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream …’ In an earlier blog ‘Meeting Jesus – Living Water’, we recognised Jesus as the source of our faith and when we read these words from Jeremiah they should clearly point us to Jesus. As roots do two things: providing stability and nourishment for the tree, so being rooted in Jesus provides us with stability and nourishment.
Many people are happy to drift through life, waiting to see what happens and dealing with things as they occur. There is some sound advice in Proverbs that says:
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)
Trusting involves submission – submission to God. Taking time to understand God’s will for your life and your marriage will give you the confidence to sustain you through any difficult times that arise.
Husbands and wives – pray that you will continue to trust each other, but also that as a couple your marriage will be rooted in Jesus. Pray also for courage and confidence in dealing with the difficult times.
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