… but let the one who boasts boast about this: that they have the understanding to know me, that I am the Lord, who exercises kindness, justice and righteousness on earth, for in these I delight,’ declares the Lord. Jeremiah 9:24 (NIV)
The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: ‘I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness. Jeremiah 31:3 (NIV)
In Christian marriage the second attribute of love that should be evident is kindness. Why? Not only is kindness an essential characteristic of God, but Jeremiah 9:24 tells us that he delights in kindness. Marriage is supposed to mirror how God has treated his people, even when they are wayward and unfaithful. Jeremiah 31:3 tells us that God’s love is ‘everlasting’ and his kindness ‘unfailing’.
We don’t struggle with understanding what kindness means in the world. We know it when we see it. There is no mistaking it. So why in marriage is it so difficult for some partners to show simple acts of kindness to their spouse? One possible explanation may be that they may find it hard to show kindness because they think their partner doesn’t value it. One problem with the concept of ‘love languages’ is that no matter how you spouse sees your kindness, you are still encouraged to be kind. Keeping in mind God’s kindness to us, should bring our kindness into perspective.
There is a song (T’aint Such a Much) by the singer Eric Bibb which sums up how we should view kindness. A line in the song says:
‘There’s no such thing as too much kindness, no such thing as too much love.’
So surprise your spouse with your acts of kindness. Let your kindness be everlasting and unfailing.
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